3 tips for starting a new role when pregnant or expecting

by
Jenna Vassallo
Oct 18, 2023
Pregnant person talks on the phone

Employees are often nervous to tell their employer they’re expecting. This is the case no matter what your work status is, but it can be especially worrisome if you’re looking for or have already secured a new job or role.

And with mass layoffs happening across sectors, including for many expecting parents or even those on parental leave, we’ve received a ton of questions about when and how to disclose pregnancy.

Parentaly’s Head of Marketing Jenna Vassallo knows about this experience—she started a new role when she was six months pregnant. The mom of two sat down with Parentaly’s CEO Allison Whalen to discuss the different factors that go into starting a new role while expecting.

Read more to learn the three key takeaways from their chat.

Tip #1: It’s OK to wait for the offer

If you’re interviewing for a new job, Jenna believes the decision on whether to disclose your pregnancy depends on how far along you are.

If early, she recommends not sharing until an offer is in hand - or even after you start. If further along, sharing sooner might be better for both parties if your parental leave is around the corner.

“If I were eight or nine months pregnant…I would want to disclose it sooner, solely because I would be onboarding for maybe a week, two weeks, and then I would have to go out,” she said.

Allison generally agrees with this thinking, even though she once disclosed in a first round interview.

At the end of the day, this is a really personal decision and will depend on what feels right in your situation.

One factor to keep in mind: Coverage planning should begin roughly 2-3 months before an employee goes on leave, so aim to disclose with enough time to build a plan successfully.

Tip #2: Use parental leave to accelerate business goals

It makes sense that expecting employees or candidates are nervous to share their news, but it’s all about perspective. Employees going on leave are in the unique position to use it as an  acceleration tool.

“We kind of view parental leaves in our business as these important, immovable business milestones,” Allison said.

For instance, someone expecting can be more intentional and prioritize their big-ticket projects to meet deadlines and accomplish goals ahead of time. In fact, Allison recalled a time when she promoted a woman who was seven months pregnant to an enterprise sales role because she was the best person for the job.

The woman ended up closing so much business before she went out—proving that a parental leave start date can help get deliverables out the door faster.

Tip #3: Do the work to set your team up for success

Jenna was promoted from an individual contributor to a managerial leadership role at six months pregnant. This gave her the ability to wind down her work and get acquainted with her new team before she went out on leave, but looking back, she wishes she focused more of her coverage plan on her team’s initiatives:

“I was thinking, ‘I still have to do all these projects for my individual role’...but I wasn’t necessarily thinking about these three people on my team now having to learn how to report to someone new, all the changes they were going through,” she said.

Allison had a similar experience and overlooked including career development in her plan so her team could still grow while she was on parental leave.

“I think about it all the time, of how different it could be if I could go back and actually put together plans for them and think about making this a really positive experience for them,” she said.

To celebrate all we’ve accomplished, our team shared what they’re most proud of since joining the team:

I'm most proud of how much we have done to improve the single hardest moment for women's careers (going on parental leave) ... one that is often shrouded in insecurity and fear. We've been able to help advocate for so many women (and men!) in a way that is empowering and truly life-changing.

Allison Whalen, CEO & Founder

What am I most proud of? Growth! Growing a category of support that didn't exist before Parentaly. Growing from a one-woman bootstrapped operation to a global team of 25+ employees and coaches. Growing our overall impact for working parents, with companies investing in our parental leave programming to support employees all over the world. And growing as humans: new babies, new friends, new life experiences... all while tackling new and exciting work challenges together.

Rich Burke, Head of Growth

When I reflect on what I am personally most proud of during my time here, it's working alongside a team where we constantly evolve and optimize everything that we do in order to deliver the best possible experience for the folks going through our programs. It sounds cheesy, but there are processes that my team and I used to do 100% manually that are now completely automated and systems in place that have become second nature to how we operate. Working with such thoughtful, smart, and creative people is incredible.

Sara Ophoff, Senior Program Manager

I’m most proud about doing work that makes parents feel confident and empowered about their careers during a time that can be overwhelming and challenging – not only for our clients and users who go through Parentaly’s programs, but also with our advocacy work on LinkedIn, through our podcast and other big campaigns that make a difference. It’s been pretty rewarding to build a brand people know and love because what we’re doing resonates with so many employees’ experiences in the workforce.

Jenna Vassallo, Head of Brand & Marketing

I am so proud of the way we've approached growth with such care and intentionality - with every adjustment we've made to our offerings, we've never lost sight of our goal to provide the most supportive and valuable experience for our users. I love looking back on the early stages of conversations and building that have led us to the experience we offer today. Personally, I am extremely proud of the work I've done to scale and automate our backend!

Rachel Andes, Program Associate

I am most proud of the work we do every single day to make a positive impact on working parents! Everyday I get to work with an amazing group of people…we work hard but we also have fun.

Sarah Gruber, Client Partner

I'm proud of scaling an employee experience that consistently delivers positive outcomes for new parents and their organizations. Our north star has always been the user, and we never sacrifice our high quality bar!

Mansi Kothari, VP of Product & Experience

I feel a sense of pride that I get to work behind the scenes supporting everyone. I’m proud to see all of the collaboration between the team and how Parentaly positively impacts employees.

Leo Manalo, Executive Assistant

I'm most proud of going through the Parentaly program myself! I'm so proud to work for and promote this company in a time where parental leave and supportive policies are at the forefront of a national conversation. But beyond this, I'm most proud to call myself a participant.

Emmy Carragher, Enterprise Partnerships

I’m really proud of the work I did to expand our coaching bench globally at Parentaly. It was so rewarding, not to mention insightful, to connect with talented coaches from around the globe. This expansion not only enriched our coaching offerings but also strengthened our commitment to making a meaningful impact on families all over the world.

Nicole Hagemann-Bex, Senior Coaching Operations Manager

I have tremendous pride in the knowledge that what I am doing will change the career landscape for new parents, particularly mothers. This will make it more likely that my daughter can have a career AND a family without worrying about the unintentional negative impact of taking parental leave. Nothing makes me prouder than that.

Mindy Himmel-Brown, Strategic Partnerships

In my short time at Parentaly, I'm proudest of the work we're doing with our clients' ERG groups to elevate the stories and advice of actual working parents. It's such an impactful way to spread the word about Parentaly as an essential resource for all people growing their families, and the managers who support them!

Alex Diskin, Enterprise Account Manager

I'm most proud about using LinkedIn to connect with others. I was recently able to share a helpful return to work doc with 50+ new people looking to make a difference at their company. Was pretty cool that people from Chewy, McDonald's, Honda, Cisco, AWS, Walmart and more want to integrate just a piece of what we have to offer. Also...I'm so proud of the way I feel as an employee at Parentaly. For the first time in my career my personal interests align with my professional interests and I've never felt more motivated.

Jenny Hurwitz, Strategic Partnerships

I'm really proud of being able to help the Experience team by handling the supportive functions so they can focus on the bigger picture. It feels great to know that I’m making things easier for them and contributing to the team’s success.

James Mango, Executive Assistant
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